The café
8 June, 2009
I find myself sitting in a café, looking out at ageing
tarmac and metal rails, stained plants and swirling litter.
There are people all around me. There is the tinniness of
headphones and the insistence of a local radio station.
Couples talk quickly in foreign tongues and printers beep
constantly. The plastic wheels of a suitcase, the hiss of a
coffee machine. The jangling of change and the snap of a
door hinge. A sigh and the click of a laptop keyboard. This
is not being at home.
At home, there is quiet and the dog and my music played as
loudly as I like. Okay, there are noises from the street,
but I can control them by closing a window or shutting a
curtain. I can step over to the kitchen and fuel my brain
as I will and I can sit in my slouchiest clothes, dressing
for no-one at all. I am always in for the postman and I can
take as personal a call as possible without embarrassment
or a panicked rush for the street. I am at home in every
way.
And yet. There is a paradox here. Because, at home, my mind
can run as it wishes, freely, it does, uncontrollably, and
I am undisciplined and scatty. I cannot keep my eye fixed
on one thing for long enough and the likeable distractions
are so many that I follow them all, hoping for inspiration
but instead finding frustration. The dog becomes bored with
my constant presence and I sometimes, shamefully, vent my
irritations on him when all he is doing is following his
instinct to beg for food. I become too aware of the number
and variety of jobs I need to do and so worry about them,
rather than focusing on one at a time to ensure that each
is done in turn.
And, if I am being honest, I am a little bit lonely, after
four years working in my well-appointed and
self-administered solitary confinement.
So here I sit, among the noise and the smells of the
outside world, wondering if that is the secret to being
happier and more productive. It is the paradox of the
solitude of company. It is the oxymoron of a multitude of
sounds giving room for thoughts to flow and the shifting
scene allowing one's eyes to turn inwards. And it is that
strange force field, the biological magnetism, the eternal
solace of human proximity.
I have always railed against the idea that people are
better when they are close to others and that they are
unavoidably drawn to others. It seems a weakness to say
that you need to be near other people, that you feel lesser
without. But perhaps all it means to come here, to this
café, is that I prefer, rather than need, to be near other
people, am happier in their presence. After all, I have
muddled along well enough on my own. Maybe now I just feel
I need a change.
And it must be admitted, the view of the street through the
window has to be more inspirational than my blank living
room wall.